by havanagilla » Sun Mar 26, 2006 7:15 pm
Sunny, I see what you mean now. You had a traumatic fear and panic attack with 9/11. that makes perfect sense to me, wouldn't spank myself over that "fall" from grace. (maybe you can sue somebody ?)<br>But as you see, there is a strange connection, for many people, between chemical/emotional/religious dependence. You took it to another direction, a positive and moderate spiritual growth, but truly, I think the connection is guilt oriented. I can also see a connection to gender issues as well. You know the whole thing of being emotionally dependent, clinging, driving the spirit/male away, sexuality, sexual needs...its all connected in my mind to the same issues.<br>---<br>I see the difference bn male and female cig quitters (in the forums), men are less prone to feel guilty, rather they are future oriented and ego oriented, namely, they are going to "win" this battle. Women go into deep emotional crises, sadness, loss, and many of them sense a deep unexplained connection between sex, smoking and religion too. (like, if I quit smoking I will be entitled to have sex ? or such magical thinking, which is also guilt oriented).<br><br> <p></p><i></i>