by Wolfmoon Lady » Sun May 14, 2006 12:50 pm
Hi Alice,<br><br>Thank you for your post. I remember Cassandra - and very much appreciated her contributions. She and I had a couple of heated go-arounds but we traded apologies and I looked forward to a long and fruitful posting relationship. I admired her scholarship and level of insight. That lady had a lot of information tucked inside of her bonnet. Hope she's okay, perhaps still reading, and knows that we still think of her.<br><br>As for the degeneration of this thread, I saw real trouble once the Mulder poster showed up. We're all here to put our ideas out there. Why make fun of people and make them feel like jerks for holding an opposing viewpoint on a topic that cannot be proved? Passionate debate is one thing, but really!<br><br>This whole thread is about our opinion on the question Lizzy posed on the news and is not provable one way or the other. Yet, we were all asked to submit evidence. Which many of us did. It was never good enough. I found that odd because we don't see this kind of demand for proof when alien abductions are the point of discussion. Yet, there is no more or less evidence to prove we are visited by aliens than there is to prove we have a 'cabal' controlling the entertainment industry (which I believe was Pan's line in the sand).<br><br>There's a whole spectrum of beliefs on most of the topics posted here. Perhaps there's something about topics that hit too close to home that brings out the defensiveness in people.<br><br>That said, when goading, baiting, and denying another's reality come into play, I cry 'foul' - because these are all components of emotional abuse. It is called 'crazymaking' in domestic violence terminology. Pretty soon, the victim of same goes ballistic and is always blamed for losing it. Sad to see that this sort of tactic is perpetrated here because the result is usually damaging to the victim and to the witnesses who are subjected to it. Is it that important to be the winner?<br><br>FWIW, I prefer to allow others to have a different view than myself, and to not slag off at them for it. Instead, I prefer to agree to disagree, or whatever. Otherwise, the divisiveness factor sets in and creates the dueling camps of 'usses and thems'. I get enough of that in IRL, thanks.<br><br>Moreover, we are a community and it takes a lot of work to keep it together. Because I value this forum, I've learned to speak more respectfully and be more careful with my word choices. Once harsh words are exchanged, it is very hard to retract them. I've started asking myself a certain question before I hit "add post": "Would you say this to the person's face?" If I feel queasy or have any doubts, I don't do it. It took a lot of work on my part - I have a terrible temper!<br><br>Final thought: It's important to me to know I have one place where I don't have to be afraid to speak my mind. At least, I hope that is true. I know that I haven't posted as often as some do, and that's because I've gone through multiple life changes these past four months and haven't had time. But things are settling down and I hope to participate more often. I'd like to, that is.<br><br>I appreciate that some here are sore and still licking their wounds. My sympathies. It was an interesting thread. I hope (I know) we can move on and past this one.<br><br>Cheers, and Mothers Day blessings,<br>Morgan <p></p><i></i>