There's a credo in the bar industry, chief. It's when you are behind the bar it's "your show". The owner, manager etc can't say shit when you take the helm. I have made it known that I will moderate as if it were a bar. Being fair to all but also strictly protecting vulnerable people's feelings, safety and etc.
Grizzly, I don't know how many PMs you got leading up to SLAD's absence, but it is probably not in a ratio comparable to mine. I told you what I want in full view -- I actually should have shitcanned this fucker when it came up, but I wanted SLAD to understand that people were actually thinking of her. So yeah, no, no fucking gossip about "who she really is". I would have done the same for you. So fucking chill.
As far as anything "preferential" going on, no it is just normal human understanding and compassion with a known "regular" of a once "conspiracy heavy" bent website. So Grizzly, don't piss off the bartender. But I really will never have the final say. This ain't my site. But I deffo can 86 you and I don't want to do that to you or anyone.