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OP ED wrote:i love you stephen.
you continually remind me of all sorts of things that i often forget, and i thank you for that.
[actually, i kinda like Mao Zedong, despite, y'know, the genocidal stuff]
...
and all furnace guys are habitually late.
[he could've at least been decent enough to have prepared an appropriate excuse, i've found that "the line at mcdonald's was slow" is often enough to save your ass]
i hate punching clocks and timeliness and i am late for everything unimportant, but that this will be the case is usually well-understood very much in advance and i often provide a time frame instead of a time in order to cover this tendency in myself.
[OP ED has never been late for work though. not in fourteen years of working so far]
oh shit. sorry. again, i forgot we were talking about otters.
compared2what? wrote:Stephen Morgan wrote:If you don't want to be associated with such things BY ME renounce the name feminist, BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO, I WILL RESOLUTELY DISREGARD IT AS IF YOU WEREN'T THERE IN FAVOR OF WILLFULLY ASSOCIATING YOU WITH THEM.
Fixed.
Also, I have no idea what makes you think that you're in a better position to tell people who self-identify as feminists who they are and how to identify themselves than they are. But whatever it is, guess what?
You're not!
compared2what? wrote:Just for the hell of it:Stephen Morgan wrote:I will evaluate feminism socialism as a whole on the results which it has generated, such as laws and policies which feminist socialist pressure has brought about, and on the actions and words of the leaders of the movement, which is to say those socialists with most worldly power, most ideological influence, most inclusion in Women's Socialist Studies courses stock literature, and so on. Zionists are a diverse group, but we've still got Israel.
I see. Well, if you don't want to be associated with Joseph Stalin, Mao Zedong, Hugh Gaitskell and Emma Goldman (among others), stop calling yourself that.
Because I, for one, would describe myself as a radical feminist, by which I not only wouldn't mean that I agreed with Valerie Solanis, but also wouldn't mean that I agreed with Andrea Dworkin or Shulamith Firestone -- who neither agree with one another nor with Valerie Solanis -- which would really just leave him in an impossible position wrt what wholesale identity to impose on me if he knew what I was talking about. Or cared.
Canadian_watcher wrote:You nailed it, C2W.
this morning's real life encounter with a sexist prick went like this:
Furnace Guy is supposed to be at my house at 8:30.
Furnace Guy shows up at 8:50
When I answer the door he asks for my husband, who has gone to work.
I say, "You must be Ben. Can you tell me why you are late?"
Furnace Guy laughs heartily in my face, and then says, "Seriously?"
And I say, "Yeah."
And he says, "What.. did your husband have to leave for work or something?"
I reply, "Well yes, he did. But I'm the one you would have been dealing with, anyway."
"Oh." Says Furnace Guy Ben. "It's only ten minutes." I resist the urge to correct his math. While I resist, he laughs again.
"I don't like people who are late," I say. "You were late. You're out."
Now, yes, this guy *might* have just been a late tradesperson with an attitude. And I *might* have been being 'hard on the poor fella." But I do wonder if he would have had quite such an attitude if the man of the house had been at the door instead of the Missus.
sex·ism noun \ˈsek-ˌsi-zəm\
1: prejudice or discrimination based on sex; especially : discrimination against women
Stephen Morgan wrote:As a working class man who interacts with tradesmen as one to another, on an equal footing, there's certainly nothing unusual about them turning up late and copping an attitude. There's a reason their most stereotypical sayings are "oh dear, oh dear, oh dear, will you look at that" and "it'll cost you".
I don't do business with dummies.
norton ash wrote:I don't do business with dummies.
Bullies should be avoided too.
norton ash wrote:I don't do business with dummies.
Bullies should be avoided too.
this morning's real life encounter with a sexist prick went like this:
Furnace Guy is supposed to be at my house at 8:30.
Furnace Guy shows up at 8:50
When I answer the door he asks for my husband, who has gone to work.
I say, "You must be Ben. Can you tell me why you are late?"
Furnace Guy laughs heartily in my face, and then says, "Seriously?"
And I say, "Yeah."
And he says, "What.. did your husband have to leave for work or something?"
I reply, "Well yes, he did. But I'm the one you would have been dealing with, anyway."
"Oh." Says Furnace Guy Ben. "It's only ten minutes." I resist the urge to correct his math. While I resist, he laughs again.
"I don't like people who are late," I say. "You were late. You're out."
Now, yes, this guy *might* have just been a late tradesperson with an attitude. And I *might* have been being 'hard on the poor fella." But I do wonder if he would have had quite such an attitude if the man of the house had been at the door instead of the Missus.
brekin wrote:Kudos to you for providing a personal real life example.
My 2 cents just because I had a similar job in the past. (Chimney Sweep)
First, this is probably the first time he has been to your house.
After getting his gear in the morning, talking to his boss, getting his
van ready etc, he heads out to your place. He probably gets lost and/or
has to deal with morning traffic. The whole time he is probably getting
calls or calling on his work cell phone about other jobs. It's early and maybe he
needs a cup of coffee,donut, or has to piss and stops off. Once he finds your place
he may not go in first. He may have to get your paperwork ready, find your
part, etc
People think nothing of having to wait to see a Doctor, or the tax man, or other
white collar professionals. A tradesman/service person though is assumed to be screwing around
and if he is late people automatically assume the worst. Twenty minutes late
for furnace guy is really not that bad. Once he shows up he is confronted with,
""You must be Ben. Can you tell me why you are late?"
I think if you arrived to your work 20 minutes late and your Boss said sans greeting,
blocking your entry:
"Canadian Watcher, can you tell me why you are late?" You would automatically
get defensive and resentful because you are not greeted and the person assumes
you don't have a good reason for being late.
As far as his comment, "What.. did your husband have to leave for work or something?"
he might have been assuming he inconvenienced someone
who was waiting for him that early. I doubt he'd want to escalate the situation and
it sounds like he was trying to make the situation work. Whereas it sounds like since you say
""I don't like people who are late," I say. "You were late. You're out."
You decided not to like him before you even met him and that was apparent on your first
encounter. He probably immediately, fairly or not, labeled you a "difficult person" which is totally
gender blind because he no doubts encounters that type of both genders. Him laughing I think
is the best he could do in that situation. I doubt he's fixing furnaces because it is the fulfillment
of all his dreams. It's early in the morning and he is what he believes (looks like erroneously) only
10 minutes late.
brekin wrote:As far as his comment, "What.. did your husband have to leave for work or something?"
he might have been assuming he inconvenienced someone
who was waiting for him that early."
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