Krysos wrote:barracuda wrote:Take your inane perspective to a men's rights forum or start your own thread, you misguided individual. You don't even have the wherewithal to defend your own misguided statements, or apparently to even try to. You're disrupting the thread. Get lost, troll. Be gone.
Wherewithal and time are two separate things.
Not always. Wherewithal is simply the necessity of means required to accomplish a desired end. The needed means might be money, geographic location, common sense, ability, or any number of similar or dissimilar resources without which that end cannot be confidently approached or brought to resolution. Abundance of time could easily be included among such obligatories, such as you would seem to be insisting in this case to be have been previously lacking.
The fact that you've decided some full seven days since your reinstatement here (with an added two weeks before that since the event of my original comments to you, making it a grand total of nearly three full work weeks in between the impetus of my post above and your responding submission) to take up the task of clarification strikes me as conspicuously dilatory. I realize, though, that people are busy. And since you've now decided the time has ripened for a riposte, it would seem expedient to get on with it, and demonstrate just how you would reply to my earlier point-by-point dissection of your post which ended so yearningly with a request for redress,
"Do I have this about right?"I did my part, as I understood the question, and was unhappily rewarded in return with your supposition that I was
"...probably just too busy patting yourself on the back for empowering women by telling them that have no power. Such chivalry."
So if you actually have, now, sufficient wherewithal, having finally buckled together the resources to make clear your stance on these things (which it certainly appears you have, judging by the number of your various postings over the last two days on other matters), and feel no barrier, apparently, to regressing back to those heady, younger days of thread repartee, then head freely on, and make your feelings known.
Because otherwise I'm at a loss as to why you decided to bump the thread, if not to answer my earlier answer within the luxury of your new-found time.
Krysos wrote:I don't react well to condescension and scorn, as I'm sure most people don't.
I'm a reasonable man. If I feel it proper to cast my scorn, it could only be due to encountering what I feel in perfect reason to be scornful ideas or behaviors. That's only fair and right, isn't it?
It may not always seem to be the case, but I rarely, if ever, act out of spitefulness in my dealings here. My desire was really a selfless one - to help you be a better and more valuable member of this community. If, in order that this eventuality might transpire, I should see the need to resort to a show of contempt, you can be assured that it is not from a stance of hurtfulness, but rather of deliverance. "Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell," so says the old king, son of a king. And though I do not hold with corporal beating, in this context there may prove profit from the employment of such small stings. At least that has been my experience. Because when a man is wrong, and shows himself not liable to right such a wrong on his own because he feels no distress by the repetition of these errors, even to the cries of his fellows, he ought be helped in his journey by the smart of an occasional thistle in his freewheeling. It's only right and kind.
Krysos wrote:I'm not a troll.
That's all well and good that you should make that clear in your words, if not your actions, though I'm hard-pressed to find agreeing evidence in either at the moment.
Krysos wrote:I've been reading this forum since 2006 or so and the blog since around 2004 I think.
A fine chronology, but a confusing one in terms of your evident astonishment at being so ill met after the presentation of your resume of notions. It's not as if these topics are new here, after all. And surely if they really take your interest as much as they seem to, you must be aware that they are likely hard fought, even to the point of some rare, rare instances of scorn, condescension or even glad redemption.
Krysos wrote:I have no hidden agenda and I'm not some agent of misinformation.
Everyone hides agendas. There are no open books in anonymity. Regarding the veracity of the information you see fit to disseminate, the prick of chastisement that has you grumbling should be a clue that it may not ring true to some of your peers. But deliberate misinformation is certainly a different matter than simple misguidedness, though one may in fact be as dangerous as another in unfortunate circumstances.
Krysos wrote:I also don't appreciate being called misogynistic or otherwise pigeon-holed.
All the holes here are self-carved. If you find yourself thrust birdlike into a nest not of your liking, you are surely the master of your fate. The forum is your oyster! Creating your compartment anew is the easiest thing imaginable - it takes only to set your comportment to it.
Krysos wrote:I don't care if you think I'm misguided, but I think it's sad to see that one of the more open forums that I've found is so close minded about certain things as to excuse bullying and name calling.
If you mean to take the description of "troll" as name-calling, I would disagree. The word has a definite meaning and is by no means simply an aspersion. As to other, more pointedly caustic classifications, surely an element of frustration is to blame, a share of which you ought to be able to shoulder lightly.
Krysos wrote: I would much rather see ideas discussed rather than personal rivalries and unfounded accusations.
Um. In that case, I apologize for any discomfort I may have personally caused you which has interfered with your ability to openly discuss the subject at hand. Let us begin fresh! I am composed almost entirely of ears, and best of luck with that.
Okay, maybe not everyone. Sometimes, I've got the earbuds in and I'm in my own little movie with a Jethro Tull soundtrack ... 
... its a very groovy feeling, but a bit isolating and I guess a lot of the folks out there on the street or bus or train fade into the extra category, cuz, y'know - I'm the star in my movie. Very often though, I consciously pocket the earbuds and focus on being a person among other people. Here in the Middle Kingdom and back in Kanuckistan, I am frequently rewarded with the exchange of a warm smile or some friendly reply to an innocuous comment on the slowness of the line or the weatheriness of the day. When I stick my neck out and get nothing or worse, a stony face, I do feel a bit hurt - shunned somehow - rejected even. There are occasions when it feels downright rude, and I mutter something quietly in my head about it - something unkind even. Then I wag a finger at myself and remind me that sometimes folks are having a bad day or a bad decade, and smiling at clown people 
who wander about bursting with unsolicited smiles and hellooos / nin haos is just not on their radar, however much good I think it might do them. Nothing personal. Then I shrug it off and smile at someone else, or pat a friendly dog, or summat. As a longtime unrepentant out-in-public blurter I can tell you that it does seem folks are incrementally less and less inclined to blurt first or return the blurt. I reckon folks do feel more and more alienated from random humans they don't already know by name or from some prior familiar context. Who can blame them, really?