lightningBugout wrote:Does he even feel shame when he hits her?
as far as I know, there was only one instance of parent on child hitting self-reported. It doesn't SEEM like it's an on-going thing he does. Remember he says he's BEEN investigated for potential child-abuse already. Now he's talking about a physical abnormality present in the brain.. Odd that that wasn't mentioned in the LA Dog-Trainer's lengthy report... but so it goes. It does also sound like they are ramping her off the drugs. Since, as dad says, none "work" anyway, except at doses that the docs will not and can not continue prescribing.
There may be some good developments coming their way, and things are likely to improve. If this brain issue is at the root, it's possible in a few years her growing brain will have been able to compensate. She is apparently also sleeping more these days.
That said, I still find it possible to read everything he reports as symptoms of her "mental illness" as being behavior within the realm of normal. She's going to have to learn to stop hitting others, but it's entirely possible that will come about within the next couple years also.
I'm glad this got out there and we've certainly aired this matter out extensively (much more so than I ever expected), but I'm wondering if there's anything to be gained from continuing on? If any good will come from our discussions here, it's most likely already been set in motion, so... I don't know. There are millions of kids out there right now with shitty parents having a rough go, this one is doing better than many.
Everyone's had good insights and perspectives, I'm not putting anyone down, great points from all quarters. The Dad needs to know that there are critical voices out there as well as supportive ones, and even if he thoughtlessly rejects, or justifiably rejects them, it's still more info rattling around in his brain and it could well give him new ideas to make things better at any time.

