Also, if we want all of our civilization's art to be created only by morally pure and spotless saints... we will soon have nothing but awful, boring, stupid art.
Everybody has done something in their life that hurt someone else. EVERYBODY. Women are not blameless, holy creatures, like cows in Hinduism, for Pete's sake. If you're well off enough to be on the Internet right now, debating this, you are a stone cold killer, whether you know it or not.
Now... how to deal?
Jerky
Heaven Swan » 12 Nov 2017 04:02 wrote:CK sounds phony, contrived and calculating.
Now here’s a genuine sounding reaction to the MeToo# campaign:
“This is on us, my dudes.
For every time we bent consent – just a little – or were a little too insistent, bought one too many drinks, every joke or comment we let pass, every time we ignored or didn’t believe, every time we stared too long, or took that picture, or made a “move” that wasn’t warranted or appreciated, told someone to smile, a hundred ways every day that we – and I am right there – tried a little too hard to get what we wanted, this is on us. Because this is the culture we built, and the culture we maintain.
None of us – and I mean none of us – know the harm we’ve caused. We can’t, because we don’t talk about it, although women have been telling us this forever. It’s not just the marquee acts of assault, it’s the myriad little everyday stuff that builds this culture.
I look back on my own history, and I am truly, deeply, and forever ashamed at some of my behavior, from years ago, from yesterday. All well within the boundaries of “the game”, the culture, the expectations of male behavior, mind you, but having learned the real impact of these seemingly harmless – promoted as harmless! – behaviors directly from women I care about? Intentionally, unintentionally, doesn’t matter. The impact is the same, and the harm caused is no less painful. And that is all on me, forever.
I have been bullshit more often than not, and I guarantee you that there are women reading this post who are nodding.
We as men cannot look away from this. We cannot ignore that we have leveraged these toxic ideas to get what we want, and I would be willing to bet everything that were we truly honest with ourselves, we’ve all – and I mean all – done something in this realm.
As long as it is #yesallwomen, it is #yesallmen. And I am complicit in this, and that can not be undone.
All we can do – all I can do – is listen, learn, change, challenge, and work to make the future a place where men like us, men with heads full of toxic bullshit and toxic behaviors, don’t exist.
I don’t support social justice for cookies or esteem. I do it because I have a debt to pay down to future generations to not be men like me.”
http://melindatankardreist.com/2017/10/ ... omplicity/