Well. I don't want to drag the thread into the gutter in which I wallow. And I swear that every word of that sentence is true in its absolute and utter insincerity.
The thing is (as it were) that in contemporary het porn and erotic visual art, high and low, the female gaze is presumed to have a kind of uninterested ceci n'est pas une pipe failure to respond to the representation of the penis rather than the penis la meme chose. And I have often seen this stated as fact, not presumption, by both male and female people who opine on such things. I don't know how true it is though. Because as a result of whatever amount of truth is in the "men: horny and visually responsive; women: romantic and emotionally responsive" dichotomy, no one ever tries that hard. And when they do, they almost always do it wrong -- looking at you, Playgirl -- because they do it defensively, not proactively.
I was going to go on to discuss the unseen penis of unknown dimension in the context of Sex, by Madonna. But I am way off-topic already.
I really only sought to say that there is no framework in place for people of all genders to discuss the female attitude toward the male member that is not already all strewn with unexamined thought. So it's not a conversation that ever goes anywhere.
