slomo wrote:Twyla LaSarc wrote:Just want to say, as a spectrum adult raising (still) an aspie, this is an interesting thread.
It is not that I don't see emotion, it's that it becomes too overwhelming. It takes quite of bit of work to deal with the casual emotions/ cruelties/ drama of 'normal' folk so I tune it out...with the result that I appear not to have registered it and I scamper around after various dramas going, "Whaaa?". My kid amazes me, for the most part he just strips it all bare. I may not agree with his conclusions at times, but he has no patience with the kind of false emotion that we associate with the victorians and is still pandered to today.
Emotion is there but is not false or falsified. If you are tugging on my heart out of maudlin exploitation I will say "meh". If I am emotionally engaged by real people I will cry for days.
IMO, our emotional coldness on the spectrum is highly overrated.
I'll have to think about all this. I may be more spectrum than I think I am. I think of myself as being a very emotional person, prone to very deep (often painful) empathy, and I periodically have awkward outbursts (usually anger but sometimes other emotions). However, people sometimes describe me as "clinical", including my boyfriend (who is about as non-spectrum as one can get).
One thing that occurs to me is how I've tried to shape and regulate my emotional expression to suit strategic purposes. I'm not sure where that fits in. I'm just thinking "out loud" here.
was trying to get at this, not very successfully, in my previous posts here about "spectrumites" being normal. and these two posts got me thinking again.
what Twyla says about the "casual emotions/ cruelties/ drama of 'normal' folk so I tune it out" ties in with what i think of as a narrowing of the range of what is scientifically deemed "normal".
was visiting my sister recently (she has tv) and watched a run of the mill talent show that was just so excruciating i had to leave the room. regular film and tv is front-loaded with all this stuff that is meant to trigger the "right" emotional responses and in so far as one feels pushed around by it one is not "normal", lacks humor, or feeling, is cold, or too soft, and so on.
the "right" responses are expected and one is judged by how one does respond. conversely, with Tavistock, Bernays, et al in mind, the right responses are pushed due to the idea that control through emotion overrides the mind (and one's natural emotional responses of course). one is pushed to feel B and not A. there is a target feeling as well as a target response or aim behind the push. (none of this is really clear, i know, i don't have the necessary terms for it and someone can probably make it a lot clearer, so apologies.)
one of the reasons i like this place is because a vast amount of it is written. i get to read at my own pace. think my own thoughts, etc. it gives me space which i don't usually find "out there", what with billboards, screens, radios, people's ipods, etc., all going on at all times.
i've managed to watch two american-pointy-ball games and was amazed at all the stuff it's wrapped up in. a game lasts one hour effectively but seems to take up to three or more hours of "play" to get done. the stuff- and puffery is just amazing. i'm not going back that's for sure.
it's like comparing a modern hollywood film score with viennese classical. with the later i'm following a developing line of argument, and architectural/mathematical progression of forms. i'm not having my buttons pushed in order to buy something.
edit: books are "safer". i screen lots of stuff out all the time.
ok, i'm making no sense, but i agree with the above two posters.
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