Bruce Dazzling » Tue Jun 11, 2013 9:20 am wrote:compared2what? » Mon Jun 10, 2013 11:37 pm wrote:
Bruce Dazzling wrote:In fact, I also think it's interesting to note which posters seem bothered by the enforcement of a rule that has always existed, simply because I can't believe that any of you are actually fighting to preserve the right to end intelligent debate by calling someone a dickhead, and that's exactly what it does. It ends intelligent debate.
That too is ad hominem, in that it suggests I'm saying what I'm saying for a personal reason.
No, I didn't suggest that you were saying anything for a personal reason. I have zero idea why you, or anybody else, for that matter, say anything, and I'm not in the business of trying to divine your intentions.
Then why did you find it interesting to note which PERSONS seemed BOTHERED by something?
For the umpteenth time: I asked those questions because I don't understand the criteria you're using.
And you don't have to tell me not to use those words.
I already don't use them.
So every repetition of the caution has pretty much the same kind of psychologically self-reinforcing effect on all parties that asking someone when he stopped beating his wife might do.
I'm asking for an explanation.
And you're choosing to regard it as an oppositional act.
It's not one.
I said what I said (the part you quoted above) because I am literally shocked that we're still debating this point, which, again, arose due to my suspension of barracuda for two days for calling another poster a dickhead.
Sigh.
Yes. It did arise from that. That incident is indeed what prompted my questions. You're completely correct.
The misunderstanding only kicks in when you decide, unilaterally, that my questions are therefore really a defense of name-calling (or that I'm bothered by the suspension, or any other thing on earth you might care to name) and not what I say they are.
There's no good reason, none, for any of us to engage in name-calling. It's childish and counter-productive, so just don't do it.
The question is when, under what circumstances, and how what someone says is determined to be name-calling. I realize that it seems self-evident to you. But that doesn't mean it is to everyone.
As I've already said:
I would not have classified the use of the word "arse" as an instance of objectionable name-calling, per se. Same goes for the dozens and dozens (possibly hundreds) of slang words that are pretty much universally understood to mean exactly the same thing as a non-slang word that polite consensus has always regarded as a well-accepted and widely acceptable usage in casual conversation.
So I'm confused.***
compared2what? » Mon Jun 10, 2013 11:37 pm wrote:Stopping the name-calling is fine with me. But I still both want and need an index of prohibited words and terms, if that's what we're doing. Because my understanding of what is and isn't a clearly offensive usage differs from yours. You're the boss. And I wish both to comprehend and comply.
I have no other motive, reason or agenda. Please advise.
I'm not going to compile a list of prohibited words and terms. As I've said numerous times now, just don't call people names. Use common sense. You're all smart enough to know what name-calling means.[/quote]
It's not about smart. I don't share or understand your criteria for what constitutes over-the-line name-calling. Therefore, the exercise of common-sense judgment is not a reliable metric for me to apply. And that DOES NOT MEAN that I'm arguing that your standards are inappropriate, burdensome, or in any way displeasing to me. In completely value-neutral terms that are absolutely free of implied criticism and complaint, it literally and simply means:
- I don't share or understand your criteria for what constitutes over-the-line name-calling.
At this point, I actually care less about getting an explanation than I do about being treated like an insubordinate would-be troublemaker for asking a good-faith question, tbh. And that's not just about me. Or even primarily about me. I'm actually sincerely sorry inadvertently to have been a cause of stress to ,you.
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I don't really. know what to do to correct whatever the misunderstanding here is, though. Because I've already explained what I was asking, repeatedly. And it's only made things worse.
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Does that make any sense to you?
Or do I still appear to you to be saying something pro-name-calling and anti-Bruce-Dazzling that I'm actually not saying, due to sincerely being -- in point of fact -- anti-name-calling and pro-Bruce-Dazzling, on a constitutional basis?
Or what?
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***ON EDIT: Sorry, that part somehow disappeared. So I reinstated it.