What It Feels like for a Victim of Cyber Stalking

[WakeUpAndLive]

Forward them to the mods, if you'd like.

Is there a way to do this quickly, I can only seem to go one at a time :-\

[barracuda]

Paste them all into a single pm, I guess. I can't come up with an easier method.

[WakeUpAndLive]

Paste them all into a single pm, I guess. I can't come up with an easier method.

Just sent if off to both you and peregrine.

[Canadian_watcher]

This is crazy, since it would take reading pages and pages of the misogyny thread in order to get the full picture. But here:

This first one was sent to me yesterday, and I ignored it:

apologies
From: WakeUpAndLive
Sent: Thu Apr 28, 2011 7:45 pm
To: Canadian_watcher

Hi CW,

I'd like to apologize about our encounters in the misogyny thread. I hope we can move past any differences and work towards providing good content for this board on all subjects.

I understand if you decide not to un-ignore me.

The next PM was sent by me in response to WUaL's interjection (once again) in another thread. This was not the first time he'd gone into another thread specifically to stir up trouble. I was ignoring that practice until he did it in Hava's "Mr. Hava" thread because that was a sensitive matter and I felt that his interjection was really out of line and might hurt more than myself:

Read from the bottom up:

WakeUpAndLive
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Inbox
To each their own.

I'm not sure why, but your first sentence made me think of this:
http://www.pbfcomics.com/archive_b/PBF0 ... r_Luck.gif

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 2:04 pm View message | Post a reply
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Canadian_watcher
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages
Nope, you lose.

I've dealt with your type before.

I'm reporting this.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 1:59 pm View message

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WakeUpAndLive
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Inbox
No, no games here, but you blocked me on the board and it is my only avenue of conversation.

I am young and stupid, but I'm here to learn and hopefully become young and wise (and stay young and wise lol). Even if you feel you have not impacted my opinion you have, for what I feel is the better.

In all honesty, apologies.

Cheers,

Chris

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 1:53 pm View message | Post a reply
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Canadian_watcher
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages
I see your game - you think you're up to some innovative mind-game? You aren't.

I am affirming my right to my private space by telling you not to PM me. I am affirming my right to have the last word on the matter.

I believe you know that you are deliberately pushing boundaries and you think that you are being sneaky and building a defense by PMing me with a fauxpology. You are either young or stupid. Sophisticated people - the moderators, say - will see through it when it is brought to their attention which it will be if you are stubborn enough to PM me for any reason ever again.

Allow me to clarify: do not respond to this.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 1:42 pm View message

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WakeUpAndLive
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Inbox
Apologies. have a good one.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 1:35 pm View message | Post a reply

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Canadian_watcher
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages
I do not believe you have any remorse or consideration for me, or for hava who you are using a a pawn which is absolutely unfair to her. I am asking you for her sake more than mine to shut the hell up in that thread.
do NOT PM me again.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 1:33 pm View message
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WakeUpAndLive
Message subject: Re: Mister HavaFolder: Inbox
I'm saying that it is a step forward. I felt I had one as well last night. I changed the post in hava's thread, because I went back and realized i was not specifically targeting YOU, but us, everyone, who needs to accept that sometimes we just won't understand another persons viewpoint.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 1:05 pm View message | Post a reply
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Canadian_watcher
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages

do not PM me again.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 1:02 pm View message
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WakeUpAndLive
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Inbox

I did read the next sentence. It confirms my sentiment.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 1:00 pm View message | Post a reply
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Canadian_watcher
Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages

hey - back off.
did you read the VERY NEXT SENTENCE in my post where I said I accept it?
did you?
CAN you even read?????

Subject: Mister Hava

WakeUpAndLive wrote:

Canadian_watcher wrote:

hava, I know that this is directed at what you took from what I wrote on the circumcision thread. I just went back for the 4th time to see what I did that might have in ANY way been construed as racial hatred or as being unfair to you personally. I am sorry to say that I still do not see it.

Just as with the misogyny thread, it is in the eye of the beholder. It is not for you to understand why, just accept it.



Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 12:49 pm

[barracuda]

Jesus Christ. What part of "do NOT PM me again" didn't you understand, Wake? Fuck. BRB.

[WakeUpAndLive]

Jesus Christ. What part of "do NOT PM me again" didn't you understand, Wake? Fuck. BRB.

NOT? As far as i'm concerned that request was a form of having the last word and to shut me out, I was disrespectful in ignoring it, but so was she in posting it.

I am affirming my right to have the last word on the matter.

[barracuda]

I've suspended WakeUpandLive's posting privileges pending Jeff's final decision on this.

[Project Willow]

NOT? As far as i'm concerned that request was a form of having the last word and to shut me out, I was disrespectful in ignoring it, but so was she in posting it.

That's one of the most frightening things I've ever read on RI.

[Nordic]

hm, i used to think wual was a female for some reason. can you tell i've been avoiding that misogyny thread??

[Canadian_watcher]

NOT? As far as i'm concerned that request was a form of having the last word and to shut me out, I was disrespectful in ignoring it, but so was she in posting it.

That's one of the most frightening things I've ever read on RI.

yeah - it's chilling.

This whole thing... I could see it from really early on and tried like hell to defuse ... it was clear he was going to push and push for a response from me and he got it when he went into hava's thread.

It's an uphill battle to explain to 'the authorities' that there is a problem when all you've got is experience and instinct (call it intuition?) on your side. These kinds of things either escalate to the point where it's obvious that hurt has been caused or the object of the 'stalking' ends up leaving.

Thankfully I did have some moral support along the way. You all know who you are. Thank you so much for your words & wisdom.

one final thing - to some this might seem trivial and overwrought. All I can say to those people is that thing about miles and shoes.

-Sherri

[vanlose kid]

hm, i used to think wual was a female for some reason. can you tell i've been avoiding that misogyny thread??

up til yesterday i thought he was a she based on his posts earlier in the misogyny thread.

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[justdrew]

hm, i used to think wual was a female for some reason. can you tell i've been avoiding that misogyny thread??

up til yesterday i thought he was a she based on his posts earlier in the misogyny thread.

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where does it say WUaL is male? chris can be a woman's name.

[Canadian_watcher]

whatever - he or she - is disturbed IMO.

[justdrew]

ok then. hopefully it's resolved. sorry for butting in

[Canadian_watcher]

drew, you're not butting in. this is public and whoever wants to comment can comment.
please don't feel that you have to pussyfoot around.