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82_28 wrote:
There's no explaining anything to anybody who thinks like that at default settings. . .
yathrib wrote:I find the best thing is to question in an innocent tone, as if you've really never heard of what they're talking about. Of course this only works if they don't know your true position... Basically, act like you're from Mars so far as this stuff is concerned. Force them to unpack it and think about how to explain it to you. Sometimes they even enjoy Explaining It All to someone who (they think) genuinely has no clue. But the idea is they have to think about it too, and maybe with that thought will come doubt. I've seen people at least modify or even back off of extreme positions as a result, if only to avoid sounding like bigoted morons in my presence.
Gnomad wrote:82_28 wrote:
There's no explaining anything to anybody who thinks like that at default settings. . .
A serious reboot is needed.
I happen to have several relatives who are fundamentalist christians. Sometimes I find it really difficult to maintain my cool in social situations with them. Sometimes I haven't maintained it, and have questioned their views. Have also since long ago resigned from the church, and told them so. Sadly, I have no advice except try to. Every now and then, you can have a balanced inquiry into each others beliefs that will lead to better adaptation. It is worth trying, and trying to remember to be calm and detached when doing so. We are all a bit crazy and misinformed after all.
SEAL Families Remember Christian Warriors
By Mark Martin, CBN News Reporter, Wednesday, August 10, 2011
VIRGINIA BEACH, Va. -- Family and friends gathered Thursday to honor the life of one the 30 fallen U.S. servicemen killed in Afghanistan over the weekend.
U.S. Navy SEAL Kevin Houston, one of 22 SEALs who died in Saturday's insurgent attack upon a CH-47 Chinook helicopter, was memorialized in Virginia Beach, Va.
"He would often say, 'I'm at the tip of the spear. I'm right where I wanna be,'" Jarrod Paquette said of his friend.
As the nation grieves the loss of their fallen heros, family and friends are finding comfort in each other and local churches are stepping in to help heal the wounds.
The top American commander in Afghanistan just announced that international forces killed the Afghan insurgents responsible for shooting down the Chinook helicopter.
But the news comes as cold comfort to grieving loved-ones who, days after the tragedy, are still in shock.
"He died doing what he wanted to do," said Mikayla Dreyer, a friend of one of the men.
Just eight weeks ago, 30-year-old Aaron Vaughn witnessed the birth of his daughter. Now his wife Kimberly is left to raise their 2-year-old son and an infant.
"His last words to me were, 'I love you. I'll talk to you later.' And one day in heaven we will,'" she said.
Kimberly Vaughn told CNN that her husband was man with a deep Christian faith.
"A wonderful husband, and fabulous father to two wonderful children he was a warrior for Christ," she said.
Like the Vaughns, most of the 22 Navy SEALs who died lived in Virginia Beach with their families.
SEALs like Houston and Lou Langlais attended Atlantic Shores Baptist Church. This church and other churches are working around the clock to minister and pray with the grieving families.
"These guys are all men's men. They are strong and Kevin is fun and full of life, and in fact, recently he accepted Jesus Christ as his savior," said Kyle Wall, lead pastor of the church.
Wall spent the day praying with the families.
"It's going to be an inner process of healing from the Holy Spirit working in their lives. He is the only one that can bring true healing," Wall explained.
CBN News Military Correspondent Chuck Holton was recently embedded in Afghanistan with some of the SEALs who died in the crash.
"They are some of the most lethal human beings on the planet, but they are also very compassionate. And I think that's because they know that to be a good warrior they have to suppress the emotions of fear and anger and that sort of thing, but they never suppress the emotion of love. Because the best characteristics of love bring out the best characteristics in a warrior," he explained.
"They are tough, but even today I heard stories about them sharing their faith, sharing what God was doing in their life with their peers," Wall said.
And while the families are finding comfort in God, they also find comfort knowing these men died fighting for America -- a country they loved.
"These Navy SEALs, they don't do it for the medals or TV interviews or anything. They do it because it's the right thing to do," Vaughn said.
Memorial plans for the remaining service members have not yet been announced.
http://www.cbn.com/cbnnews/us/2011/Augu ... Warriors-/
blanc wrote:I've never seen anything like this close up (we're divided by more than a common language). Looking from the outside
"It's been my experience that fundamentalists are terrified." strikes me as only part of it, that its fear and anger combined, the combination which usually leads to bullying.
What would happen if you asked "what are you afraid of actually?", and "who are you angry at actually?" and probed a bit to get beyond the knee-jerk response. Its not possible to present arguments to undo brainwashing in my experience, but sometimes is possible to enable an exploration of the underlying primal emotions.
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